How to Ruin Your 20s

Hello my lovelies. I hope you all are having a wonderful start to your week, I know mine is HECTIC! I have class at 10, work 12-2, have to drive my car home, go to the mechanic and get my new car, drive back to school by 4:30 so that I can make it on time for duty and I have a floor meeting at 9. Yeah… its that kind of start. But it’s all defintiely doable!


I hope.


Anyway, today I wanted to come on here and talk about something that has been on my mind recently and that is living in the present. I came across a quote on Facebook that read:


So true, right? We spend our lives thinking and plotting about what’s next and we lose focus of NOW, of the present moment and joys that we have. Every stage in life has it’s pros and cons and nobody has their ish together. It just doesn’t happen, some are just better at pretending than others.


I’m the number one offender of trying to make sure all my ducks are in a row. I like stability, I like routine, I like predictablitiy and plans. However, I recognize that you can’t PLAN life. You can simply have goals and work towards them. Have a timeline but leave it openended in a lot of ways. Life likes to play sneaky tricks and there’s not much you can do but deal with them the best you can.


I’m an education major and baby/wedding fever is definitely a thing within my major. But my boyfriend is way more go with the flow, take our time, f*#%@ society’s rules type of guy. I’ve learned that he needs more time than I do to come up with “what’s next” and “where should we go” type of things. I’m pretty much set with my desires for life, but I recognize that getting them takes time, it takes work and life isn’t handed over to me on a silver platter.


We often compare ourselves to the affluent, to the outliers of our society and think that that is where we are suppose to be. I speak about it more in my video:



But I think that even in our 30s and 40s we have this expectation of what life is SUPPOSE to be instead of what it is. Goals are great, but stop comparing your path to someone else’s. I’ve been blogging for about 2 years now. Im not any bigger than yesterday and I’m ok with that. I’ve accepted that this platform might not be for me career wise, but I can always work for  company or write a book.  Comparing myself to my friends is ridiculous because their path differs greatly from mine!


Their success uplifts me to aim for my own. 


But it’s ok if it takes me a little bit longer or a few extra steps or completely different ones!

It’s all going to be ok.

Until next time


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One Response to How to Ruin Your 20s

  1. This is so true. I’m in the middle of my 20’s and I don’t think I’ve figured everything in my life. I have a long way to go but that’s okay. I prefer to live gently and not compare myself to success of others.

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